Compromise.

Dhamma understanding is very subtle and so can often sound contradictory, but there is a difference between compromise, and generously sharing the best part of yourself with others.

If you don't mind what you do there is no compromise. You will enter into the moment and bring something of worth.

If you do mind you must say no and honour your ideals and principles.

Compromise usually means giving up something you want for the apparent happiness of someone else, but this is always a big trap and may develop into a businessman’s relationship to the situation. Exchanging one thing for another.

Integrity means to stay true to those things that have value for you, if not there will often be a feeling of hostility or resentment.

When the heart is open, we can flow with the ever changing conditions of life and not mind where they take us, but we always need to guard our own centre. However we look at it, your life is about you and when you are comfortable with you, you will share that happiness. Your life will be clear and you will understand the simplicity of integrity.

Whenever you are doing something that you don't want to do you need to ask yourself this simple question; 'If I don't want to do this, why am I doing it?'

The head may offer a thousand reasons, but the truth is simple; we find ourselves living a life or doing things that we don't want to do because we are afraid of the perceived opinion of others, of losing something or being regarded as an out-caste.

However, it is better to be alone than live a life of delusion and compromise.

I can never tell you what you should or should not do, but the Dhamma advice is to listen to your heart and not be directed by fear. In other words, do not compromise those things that are important for you.

In the end, each step on the Dhamma path is a step of integrity, and this is what has value.

May all beings be happy.