Fear of Change.

Fear of change is called in Buddhist teaching, Viparinama Dukkha.

This means that we endure a feeling of insecurity as we experience ourselves, the world and everything in it as impermanent and therefore unstable.

As human beings we seek the one thing we can never have which is to experience a life where nothing will disturb us. We seek security.

However, the disturbance we meet does not come from outside but only from our fearful relationship to the fact that things are continually changing (Anicca) and that we have no true control.

The flow of these eternal changes therefore are a natural part of our life experience, from the  different seasons to evolving relationships, from birth to death and everything in between, from the biggest to the tiniest moment that will be experienced. Life, and these endless changes are not personal, they are part of the natural order of the universe.

So, what to do?

Actually, the advice is probably not very helpful, but it is simply, relax a little. Changes are happening whether you like them or not, and so the only way to be at peace with them is to accept and respond. Do what you need to do and move on. Don’t hold on to ideas of how things should be or how they were better before the change, change has happened, now things are like this.

You are much more powerful than you imagine yourself to be, so relax and respond, everything will work out. Everything will be fine.

May all beings be happy.